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What I Learned in Bed with Hannah Wydeven

By Hannah Wydeven

News about Emergency ContraceptionIt seems to have slipped under the radar that there was a recent change in the way you can access Emergency Contraception (E.C.). Now you can access E.C. from any pharmacy or clinic without a prescription. This used to be limited to clinics like Planned Parenthood or our own Health and Wellness, but now E.C. is available to anyone at anytime. All you have to do is ask for Plan B, and pay a small price to protect yourself from an unwanted pregnancy after other methods of birth control fail. Here are some of the places you can get E.C. in our area. Each of them charges $45 per treatment.
Health and Wellness
St. Paul Corner Drug
Walgreens-Randolph Ave. or University Ave.

CVS-University Ave. or Grand Ave.

Pro Pharmacy-Cleveland Ave.

E.C. works by preventing a pregnancy from establishing in the womb, so it is not an abortion because it doesn’t remove an already implanted egg. That also means that it is time sensitive. E.C. is only effective up to 72 hours after unprotected sex, but is most effective within the first 24 hours. So, if the condom breaks, or if you are too drunk to remember to wear one-don’t hesitate to take E.C. and prevent the possibility of an accidental pregnancy. You can also buy E.C. ahead of time, which is a good idea if you are sexually active; having it on hand makes you that much more prepared. Men can also buy E.C., so men can be proactive in preventing a baby-making accident. Check out www.ecminnesota.org for some helpful links or more locations to find E.C.

Dear Hannah,
I think I’m a pretty good lover. The girls I’ve hooked up with have no problem getting off, but they all have the same complaint. They want me to go down on them and I just… hate it. It makes me very uncomfortable. I don’t expect it from my partners, and I’ve explained that to them. When girls find this out they’re terribly disappointed or pissed off. They take offense and think it means I think they’re gross. I think this is a huge double standard! I would never judge a girl for not wanting to give me a blow job. I don’t know why I should have to just close my eyes and dive in to please someone else. When did eating out become obligatory?

-The Headless Horseman

Oral sex has become a standard sexual activity, and is seen as an essential act amongst most people who are sexually active. Unlike other sex acts deemed more devious by society, oral sex has been embraced as an acceptable and enjoyable form of pleasure, and has even been touted as an alternative to genital-to-genital sex (for those trying to “preserve their virginity”). In short, people have come to expect oral sex from their partners, especially those in relationships. As a result, your girls have come to expect and crave that tender touch of the tongue, and become annoyed when you refuse. Obviously no girl has the right to bully you into going down on her. However, you can’t blame her for being done with you after she finds out you’re not willing to give her what she needs in bed. Many girls can’t get off during penetrative sex, and oral sex is an incredibly satisfying alternative.

There is no reason to eat a girl out if you are just hooking up with her once or even a few times, but if you are in a relationship, then you have to be willing to try. Even if you hate the idea of oral sex, you need to be open to new experiences with a long-term partner. If you constantly deny your girlfriend the oral sex that she craves, she is going to dump your ass and find a man who drools over the thought of going down on her. Also, if you continue to play this “fair’s fair” game and never ask your girlfriend to go down on you, then you’re never going to get the pleasures that come with it. It’s worth it to venture down between your girls legs, if not for her orgasms, then for the selfish reason that you might want one in the future.

You should also ask yourself why going down on a girl makes you uncomfortable to begin with. Does it have to do with the way that the vulva looks or tastes? If so, buy some flavored lube and stop crying about it. If it feels too intimate for you to eat your girl out right away, put it off for a bit until you know her, then you should want to give her that personal pleasure she deserves. If there is another reason you don’t want to do it. I can’t think of one, but if there is, then ask yourself if that comfort factor can be overcome in order to pleasure your partner. If you are comfortable putting your penis inside of a girl, then it shouldn’t be too much of a stretch for you to eat her out. Even though you may think you’re a good lover as is, you have the possibility of inducing mind-numbing clitoral orgasms for your future partners by going down on them.

Also, would you really not judge a future girlfriend if she refused to go down on you? I doubt that if you were engaged in a committed relationship, it would last very long if either of you were afraid of the other’s genitals. On that same note of the “double standard” (besides the inherent power dynamics in woman and men giving each other oral sex, and the fact that your vagina fear is likely rooted in your upbringing in a misogynistic, patriarchal society), I would give the same advice to any woman.

That being, put your disgust of sexual activity aside and give it a shot. If it will make your partner happy and your sex lives better, then there is nothing wrong with trying something that’s a little outside of your comfort zone. Otherwise you are going to find yourself settling down with a woman who is also scared of her vagina, and the two of you will have awkward, lights-off sex for the rest of your lives.

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